Okay, so I’m sure the title of this post already has you questioning things. Why would we ever choose to fail?! Choosing to fail goes against everything we have ever been taught. It was instilled in us to be the best. But here’s the T R U T H. Sometimes, we have to choose to fail. You just have to throw in the white flag… or balloon.. which ever makes you happy!
I’ve always been extremely driven. Even from a young age I had my mind set on having a career of my own, a family, I wanted it all. Who doesn’t? Well, a traveling husband, three kids, three career paths, a home, and one massive Great Dane later, how do I juggle it all? I know I can’t be the only one in this boat. I feel pretty positive, especially for the creatives out there, I’m gellin on a cruise ship full of like-minded folks over here. We tend to throw our lines in many different ponds at once and sometimes it comes back to bite us.
T H E A N S W E R
You can’t. You have to choose what to fail at. What to let go of. What to be less than perfect at. And in my case, my husband still travels. I still have T H R E E kids. Those factors are the constants [may be the only thing I remember from algebra.. or was it geometry… eh you get what I’m saying]. So what about these careers? Well straight out of college I landed a job as a nurse. Growing up, I had always said that would be my path, and it was. However, I’m a creative at heart. Nursing was simply a fail safe. My true passion is in weddings, publications, designing, and dreaming. You know, the exciting things. And when I realized there’s no possible way to keep all these bowling pins in the air, I had to make some difficult decisions. And sometimes that’s our only option. See what makes you happy and let go of the rest. A jack of all trades never made a master of any, right? But, on the other hand we are women, I feel confident we can be a master of several, just not A L L.
A T H O M E
This same mentality can and should be applied in the home. Mama, I see you. I see you washing, drying, folding, loading, unloading, cooking, feeding, bathing, cleaning, repeating. I literally just ran out of breath A N D broke a sweat just writing that list. If my mother ever reads this [which I feel sure she will] she’s probably screaming don’t listen!! She’s a bit of a stickler for house cleaning. But please do, please listen, especially you, working single mama. I know your heart. My husband lives out of state for work for goodness sake, trust me, I K N O W your heart! And I’m hear to tell you, it’s okay! It’s okay if the floors aren’t taken care of today. It’s okay if you picked up fast food instead of making that four course meal. It’s even okay if the kids eat cereal for dinner every now and again, trust me, they will be just fine! It’s okay if the dishes are piled up tonight when you go to bed, because guess what, they will be there for you to tackle tomorrow. We are not robots! And that is a-okay. Take a deep breath, take a load off! A happy mama is the best mama. Don’t let the mundane chores get you in a funk.
I see you!
And you’re doing a great job.